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War Room lit a fire under you. Clearing room for a prayer closet and ripping clothes off hangers, you left a giant mound in the floor, determined to fight on your knees.
But somewhere along the way, you became discouraged because somehow it didn’t seem as powerful as the movie version.
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>Your husband wasn’t too keen on the idea of church dresses and yoga pants jammed in between his business suits.
>The kids won’t leave you alone – you just can’t find time.
>Even worse – your war room prayers aren’t being answered!
1. Your war room doesn’t have to be a closet
Yes, the Scripture says,
“But when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; ~Matthew 6:6a
But the context is this: Christ spoke of hypocrites who “Love to stand and pray in the synagogues and at the street corners, that they may be seen by others”. (verse 5.)
Christ’s goal was for us to build a relationship with Himself, and not for show.
Growth in Christ involves matters of the heart. It’s between you and Him.
Yes, we should strive to get alone and pray with the Lord, away from distractions.
But it doesn’t have to be a closet. It can be a bathroom (perhaps where you’re hiding from the kiddos), a laundry room, a bedroom, or your car.
Don’t feel bad if you don’t have a prayer closet. God hears your prayers no matter where you are, even if it’s in the middle of a pile of laundry.
Your war room doesn't have to be a closet - it can even be a laundry room amidst a giant pile of clothes! Click To Tweet
2. You can pray around distractions (and sometimes need to)!
If you’re a mama to littles, this whole War Room closet can be a little intimidating.
You may think your prayer life doesn’t count right now because frankly, you barely have time to go to the bathroom alone (and then not always successfully).
The infant/toddler years are not conducive to alone time.
Learn to pray with your eyes wide open and your ears alert (for quiet littles, who are most definitely up to something).
Pray as you load the washing machine.
Pray as you nurse your baby.
Pray as you clean spilled milk (for the umpteenth time).
Pray always, and without ceasing.
Just because you can’t find time alone in a closet doesn’t mean your prayers are meaningless or that God doesn’t hear you if you’re not on your knees.
Just pray. As a mom of four, I’m here to tell you – He meets you where you are.
3. Your husband may not repent quickly
Yes, prayer is our weapon.
God gives each of us a will, and He does not force it on us.
God gives each of us a will, and He will not force it on us. Click To Tweet
If your husband doesn’t change, it doesn’t mean you’re not doing it right.
A godly friend prayed over her husband, even denouncing Satan in the name of the Lord, saying, “You can’t have him!”
And yet, he chose the other woman.
Yes, pray earnestly. Pray zealously. Call on the name of the Lord! Pray expectantly!
But wait on the Lord.
Prayer is just as much about shaping your godliness as it is about the repentance of others.
While waiting in prayer faith rises to its highest level and becomes the gift of God. It becomes a constant fellowship with a tireless request to God. ~E.M. Bounds
4. Your issues need time to resolve
I realize the movie needed to be resolved in 1 hour and 36 minutes. But in real-time, marital issues take much longer.
Marital discord takes time to sow. By the same token, so does the reparation process.
Give it time, and give it years.
If your husband is an unbeliever, or is living in sin, you cannot make him believe or stop sinning.
But God can work in mighty ways we know not of. Never give up, never stop believing, keep praying and keep yourself right before the Lord.
5. Your ending may not turn out perfectly
In War Room, Tony, the husband, lost his job due to illegally inflating his sales figures. He should have gone to prison, yet his boss saw his repentance and did not press charges.
Tony rebuilt his formerly weak relationship with his daughter, and was offered another job with lower pay.
Meanwhile, Elizabeth’s pay increase made up for his pay cut.
They did not lose their house, Tony recommitted his love for Elizabeth and the movie ended with him giving her a foot rub and ice cream.
This is great. We love happy endings, and I left that theater with the warm gushies.
But you need to know that in real life, everything does not always turn out well, even if we repent.
There are consequences for sin. Messes made that are not tidied up so quickly.
Sometimes you do lose your house.
A husband can walk away.
And you’re left crying in your dishwater.
There is no magic formula in the Bible that says, “If you do this, then your life will end up great.”
Not everything will turn out perfectly just because we pray, but God will sustain us! Click To Tweet
6. Keep your war room faith because God is good
Life is hard, and life is tough.
But God is faithful and God is good.
And faith is about accepting the first statement and believing the second.
Faith is believing life is hard, yet God is good. Click To Tweet
“Now to Him Who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” ~Ephesians 3:20-21
Let’s not put limitations on God. In his book, The Attributes of God, A.W. Tozer writes of God’s goodness:
Nobody ever got anything from God on the grounds that he deserved it. Having fallen, man deserves only punishment and death. So if God answers prayer it’s because God is good.
From His goodness, His lovingkindness, His good-natured benevolence, God does it!
That’s the source of everything.
If you’re wondering at this very moment if God hears your prayers because you have a clothes rack instead of a closet, or you can’t even find a quiet space to pray, don’t give up! God still hears you, no matter where you are.
Even if your prayers haven’t been answered as you would like, if your issues are far from resolved, or if other problems have developed.
Immanuel means “God with us”. He is with you in your darkness, your messy, and yes – even in the middle of the food fight happening in your dining room between your middle school children.
Your War Room may not look like the movie, but girlfriend, God is bigger than that!
Keep praying, keep fighting, and keep looking up. Prayer is about obedience and a relationship with God!
Obedience to God helps faith as no other attribute possibly can. When a person recognizes the validity and supremacy of God’s divine commands, faith in God becomes an easy task. ~E.M. Bounds, The Power of Prayer
*A few great posts on the movie War Room from my blogging buddies are:
Why War Room is just half of the picture by Marva at Sun Sparkle Shine
Why watching the movie War Room is not enough by Johanna at Devoted to Maker
How to create a War Room that works in a busy schedule By Stefanie from Walls of Home
Prayer resources from Ruthie Gray.Mom
How to make time for a consistent prayer life with 4 tested steps for busy moms
How to make a simple prayer journal, my guest post at Arabah Joy’s blog
One simple acrostic to improve your prayer life now – more insights for mom prayer time