Kick anger to the curb

Ready to stop being a drama mama and start parenting God’s way? Then this book is for you.  Based on a solid Scripture foundation, Count to Nine; 9 Liberating steps for mom frustration and anger, will help bring about the change you’ve always wanted.

Bad day tips; 7 ways to target your emotions and kick your funk to the curb!

We've all been there

Let’s face it, we moms have a tough job!  From cooking and cleaning to shuttling kids to soccer practice, from homeschooling to working full time, we have a lot on our plates.  And that includes caring for lots of people.

But when the system breaks down – kids dawdle getting ready for school, babies scream, and we’re short on time, energy, or help, our natural instinct is to yell.  All the tension and pressure is simply too much!

And that’s when we lose it.  

What if you could...

In those high pressure moments when you’re ready to blow your top and take everyone out, what if instead, you didn’t?  What if you tapped into God’s presence and claimed His power for the moment?  What if you could empty yourself of the need to lash out and instead, take a deep breath and think before reacting?

Here's what you'll get

This book and it’s accompanying gorgeous bonus journal will take you from your emotional state of despair and set you on a path of parenting God’s way.

Real-life mom testimonies

“Count to Nine is about change. Lasting change starts in the heart. Easy? No. It takes hard work. With Ruthie’s plan of actionable steps, based on power-packed Scriptures and practical prayer prompts, you, too, can become a mom whose heart is free and ‘slow to anger.’”

~Dianne from

“I’m so thankful that Ruthie has used her personal struggle with anger to compile a practical plan all of us can use to understand, address and manage mommy anger.  Count to Nine: Nine Liberating Steps for Mom Frustration and Anger is packed full of biblical exhortation, heartfelt hope and simple action plans that will set you up to successfully tackle and tame your temper. If you’re ready to stop wishing you wouldn’t blow up and start developing new habits, this is the resource you’ve been waiting for!”

~Abi from

““Do you feel like it’s impossible to change and manage mom-anger?  Count to Nine gave me hope and the practical tools I needed to implement change.  Weary moms will learn how God provides the strength and ability to obey Him in our reactions to frustrating circumstances.””



Get your copy of Count to Nine; 9 Liberating Steps for Mom Frustration and Anger today and start kicking anger to the curb!

Hi! I'm Ruthie!

I wrote Count to Nine out of a need to overcome anger in my own life.  I struggled with anger as a young mom, and once my grandson entered the “Terrible Two’s”, I realized my struggle to be in control had never really left!  When discussing with other moms, I realized that I wasn’t the only one.

I searched Scripture with a clear goal of learning what God had to say about anger, and how to overcome it.  Next, I began implementing these truths, and taught them to other moms.  They soaked it up and asked for more!  That’s how this book was born.

Obviously, there is a great need for moms to control anger-gone-wrong! 

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it's time to overcome this stronghold

Get Count to Nine; 9 Liberating Steps for Mom Frustration and Anger today!

Frequently Asked Questions

What do you say to the moms who think, “I don’t need this; I manage my frustration just fine?”?
I think that’s what the Enemy wants.  He wants to fool us into thinking it’s not a priority, it’ll pass, the next phase will bring better attitudes, whatever.  If we ignore this, we fall right into his trap, and we’ve passed our anger patterns onto the next generation.

How can we actually believe it’s possible to be free of our anger?
God’s promise that ‘all things are possible’ means He will enable us to do His will.  And His will is to be filled with the Spirit, self-control, peace, joy, love, and all the fruits of the Spirit!  Our faith is the key to this liberation.  What it boils down to is, do we really believe, and are we willing to invest the time to tackle our anger with Scripture?

What message would you like moms to take away after reading this book?
The biggest takeaway is to get in the Word every day, even if you only have a small amount of time.  I give lots of creative suggestions for how to do that, both in the book and on my blog.  God’s Word and prayer, along with the power of the Holy Spirit living inside the believer, are the keys to victorious living!  Jesus said, “Without me, you can do nothing” (John 15:5).  That is truth.  But the counterpart of that truth is, “With God, all things are possible” (Matthew 19:26)!

What about the mom who’s really made some mistakes in her parenting? What if she’s really blown it? Not just today but over a period of time. What encouragement do you have for her?
It’s not too late!  God is in the business of making all things new!  The Enemy wants us to stay defeated.  But our God is the same God who parted the waters of the Red Sea, made old Sarah conceive at age ninety, and raised Jesus from the dead!  If He can do all that, He can make a way for that mom.  I fully believe in the cleansing, freeing power of the Word of God!

Besides the fact that this is written to moms, how would you say this book is different?

  • Scripture, and how to practically apply it, pray it, and use it in our daily, mundane mom lives is the key. In the moment and out of the moment.  In screaming and in the middle of the laundry pile. God is our Source of strength, and moms don’t realize how intimately He knows their needs.  This book shows God in our daily movements.  It provides Scripture Pillars (action verses), Power-Packed Pillar Prayers, a plan of attack, and a heart action (reflection questions) for every chapter.
  • Actionable steps to move forward.  We can read a book, but if we don’t apply what we’ve read, it doesn’t really help.  Count to Nine provides actionable plans for each liberating step, and moms will see results through implementation!
  • A beautiful BONUS printable journal with Scripture cards from the Scripture Pillars used each week. This makes it even more actionable.
  • This method has already been tested with my Mom Time Out Facebook group, where moms are seeing wins daily!


Real-life Mom Testimonies

Count to Nine was written with moms like me in mind. The ones who think we don’t have a problem. (Yes, I said it.) But as you’ve probably figured out, I really need this. And maybe you do too.  God knew that this monster that’s been living in my house has no place there. And He’s using Ruthie’s book to help me kick him out.

Marva Smith |

“Ever have one of “those days”? Well how ’bout when you have a string of them?  And how ’bout when it feels like they just keep on coming??!  That’s how I was as a young mother, and apparently, Ruthie was too.  The difference between us, however, is that she has taken the time to so generously share the lessons she’s learned from the Word and life about her anger and, more importantly, the God Who created her, Who has the tools to deal with that anger!  It’s in here.  This book is neither fluffy, nor so intense that a harried young mother couldn’t get through it and find the help she needs.  So…go ahead and count to nine, but only after you get (and start using!) this book!”

Pat Fenner | Breakthrough

“In Count to Nine, Ruthie uses Scripture, humor, and her real life experiences to encourage each of us to become the best mom we can be. It’s the perfect way to inspire – through God’s Word and a little laughter! But what I love the most is that each chapter has a Bible verse, a plan of attack, and questions to reflect on in prayer. That’s what I need to help me live a life of joy: a prayer and a plan. This book is the perfect support and encouragement in your journey to tame your temper – all it needs is you, ready to grow and change!”

Jessica| (designer of the lovely COUNT TO NINE printable journal)

don't put it off any longer

Count to Nine; 9 Liberating steps to mom frustration and anger, is the key to a new way of parenting.  Get your copy today and get started Counting to Nine!

Here's what you'll get

  • Your digital copy of Count to Nine; 9 Liberating Steps for Mom Frustration and Anger
  • A beautiful, printable journal to log thoughts and heart actions
  • Lovely set of Scripture cards
  • Lovely set of blank Thankful Cards

Dear mom, isn't it time for you to count to nine?

Don’t wait another day.  Take this one step towards progress and your new life.

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