How to release regret and move forward

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“Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”  Philippians 3:13-14 

 

Chances are (if  you’re human), you have regrets from the past. 

Goals unattained.

Opportunities unclaimed.

A sin-festered soul.

Unkind words.

Boundaries overstepped.

Discontentment.

An unwise choice.

Wasted time.

     ___________________ {Insert regret here.}

We wish we hadn’t.  But we did.  Paths taken we cannot undo.  Hindsight is 20/20, so they say. 

It’s also painful. 

Remember, Paul had a past.  He was in charge of persecution of believers in the early church.  He knew what he had done. 

     But He also believed what Christ had done.

Forget the past

He ran into people from His past – Christians who feared him because of what he stood for in his early days.  I’m sure there were others who judged his motives and thought he was out of  his mind. 

“This one thing I do.” 

 

Paul knew he had to give it up.  Christ had redeemed and set him free, and he was off and running. 

Leaving the past behind and reaching forward to the call of Christ ahead.

“How can Christ forgive me for what I’ve done?  How can others forgive?” 

We rationalize in our limited, human thoughts.

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He decided to love us and give us a chance. 

If I mess up today, God will still be with me tomorrow.  He will still give me another chance, because He’s God, and that’s what God does. 

Then, it’s my turn to forget what’s behind – get back in the race. 

Don’t just walk – run!

 It’s a race, and there’s a prize.

That means full throttle, all out abandonment for Christ, even if we are scared. 

We run.

When my kids were young and I disciplined them, afterwards I tried to show that I was over it and moved on.  (Granted, some days were worse than others – but I tried.) 

I knew how much I’d been forgiven, and I also knew how good forgiveness felt. 

It’s important our kids get that from us, because we’re conveying a picture of Christ’s ultimate act of forgiveness.

When the town harlot came to Jesus with a bottle of very expensive perfume and stood at His feet, weeping, raining tears on them, the Pharisees were appalled. 

“She was forgiven many, many sins, and so she is very, very grateful.  If the forgiveness is minimal, the gratitude is minimal.” (Luke 7:46-47, “The Message“)

Grace for moms, too

We parents also know what it means to blow it with our kids.  It’s a terrible feeling when you lash out in anger all over your kids like Mount Vesuvius. 

I’ve been there. 

I’m not proud to say it, and my kids remember some of those times. 

And yet – they offered their forgiveness.  Oh, I’m so glad they did.  They know “ugly me”. 

But they still love me.  They’ve given grace to me. 

I certainly haven’t arrived, and I still have set-backs. 

But I keep putting my hand back in my Savior’s and looking forward, accepting His grace and mercy. 

It’s not easy – some days are better than others for letting that regret go.

It’s then that I reach for the Word and my treasured memory verses – and they’re everywhere.  In my phone, on 3×5 cards above the kitchen sink, in my prayer journal.

Refute the lie that God cannot accept or forgive with the Truth. 

It’s the only way. 

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Anticipate the prize

And then, we have to be ready to reach forward. 

Because reaching forward means we are moving on in the strength of the Lord, believing Him at His Word that we are forgiven, and owning our salvation by living for Him. 

If others don’t forgive, we still press on.  We must own our calling and do what is right. 

We serve the Ultimate Judge, and He says,

“And that is what some of you were, but you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.” (I Corinthians 6:11, NIV.)

 

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Even if your past was just yesterday, or this morning, or even 5 minutes ago. 

Forget what is behind, and replace it with reaching forward. Remember, Paul also said,

“I can do all things through Christ.”

 

How will you reach forward today?

“Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”   Philippians 3:13-14

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